The start of something beautiful on 1jan09

2010-07-10T07:08:00.001-07:00

it was a blog i set up initally to keep serve our r/s as a memories
it been a year i set up this blog
i realised there are not much happy memories here.
look back this blog,i feel upset too but feel it is pity to delete it away.

2010-01-18T01:46:00.001-08:00

i dont feel like keeping this blog anymore. cos whenever i see all the post i will feel sad.

2010-01-17T07:04:00.001-08:00

why is it so diffcult to be 细心??
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2009-12-25T10:55:00.001-08:00

if we know each other longer maybe i could stay at ur house or u comin
to my house
yeah.if we can wait till that day to have the opportunity

2009-12-23T10:08:00.000-08:00

so piss now.
ask me to calm down when u urself did not calm down
temper can control,can you?
if u can then you tell me that sentence if not
dont ever tell me to control my temper.

2009-12-17T07:19:00.000-08:00

it been awhile since i requested it
cant u do it for me once?
once in a blue moon.
i treated u good and well
i do everything i can for u.
u are always in my first place
a request like this cant be fullfill.

2009-12-16T09:54:00.001-08:00

im so damn fuckin sad with my hair
everytime i look at it it make feel so sad sia.
screw that shop.

2009-12-15T06:53:00.000-08:00

im happy today.
it been so long since im happy.
i wish i am this happy everyday.

2009-12-12T08:32:00.001-08:00

i saw everything

2009-12-12T07:39:00.000-08:00

i feel more moody.
it been so long since i feel happy.

2009-12-11T08:44:00.000-08:00

siiting alone at park is quiet and cool.

2009-12-10T07:16:00.000-08:00

alone again. sigh.
how to do rj?

2009-12-09T02:15:00.000-08:00

i feel empty....

2009-12-07T03:13:00.000-08:00

sometime i wished i could have the love that you used to give me

sometime i wished you could be there for me when i need you the most\

sometime i wished you understand something that may seem nothing to u

sometime i wished

2009-10-28T07:53:00.002-07:00

know how it feel when you shouted let broke up at the phone
i dont know how many times u said it
did u meant what u said?
wont you regret ?
it get me thinkin and thinkin
wonder and wonder
if i agree to your decision i wont turn back anymore
once done is done for me
once heart broken is broken
one it is ended it is really end.

2009-10-26T08:13:00.000-07:00

i wan to take care of u .
jus give me a chance to do my duty as a gf
i wont worry that im sick,
even if i am sick im willing to i wont blame anyone cos
i get sick for my gf .it worth it

why dont u appreciate it?

To wifey!

2009-10-19T08:14:00.000-07:00

Love involve 2 party in order to work out.
I know we have been working out in all differents in our rs.
It is hard to change for others and it is even harder to do something about it.

I can see u changing for me.
I will also do my best to change away some habits or attitude towards you.
I believe we can over come all this togther :)

Thank you wife..
i love u.

JL

2009-10-14T07:26:00.000-07:00

a PICTURE speak a thousand word.

we love megan fox.

2009-09-23T10:06:00.000-07:00

my dear justina and me have been travelling around the earth for 1 week
during this one week we took alot of photos.
here ,below are our photos.

we become model and hang it at gallery

ps: i love her

our poster were being hang at the venice river

this is the shop being open by us

3 pose for the photo fame at one of the famous shoppin centre at new yolk

our poster hang at london city

our story begin in a book ..on 1 jan 09

xoxo,only you

2009-09-14T07:17:00.000-07:00

dead and gone.
hF.

2009-09-10T09:43:00.000-07:00

i feel like closing this blog.

east coast

2009-09-07T09:40:00.001-07:00

finally ,i can upload pictures here.
it been age .
:)
went to east coast park today to cycle.
double rider because i dont know how to ride.
been hard for my dear ,jus.
she having muscle ache all over her limbs.
LOl
it been so long since i really enjoyed myself very much.
i love the holiday.awesome.
pity ,just one month .

ready for pose

take 2

huggie

my love ,xoxo

i wished we have honeymoon everyday

2009-09-02T07:51:00.000-07:00

hey guys ,blogger having some technical problem hence i cant upload picture.
DEAR ,I really dont know how to change it ;)
anyway 8th month annvisary was celebrated with my baby.
visit her blog since she wrote it
http://www.change-anew.blogspot.com/

;)

love only u,justina lim.

2009-08-04T22:01:00.001-07:00

under stress

2009-07-30T07:49:00.000-07:00

whole day with baby justina today ;)
pon school together with her .LOL
so i went to her home to slack ..
her mum was in ,
i was abit scare so i when i reached her door i stood outside for a while unsure of whther to call my dear loudly or wait for her to let me in...but unexpected her mum spotted me outside so she let me in. phew.

after that have lunch with dear and her mum.during the meal,i 'suan" baby because she made me angry ..so her mum saw us tease and suan each other.chatted alot about how naughty and cute she was when she was young.

haha,i found out that when she was 2yr old she will sang and dance in front of the tv following what the singer did .so cute :)

evening time,went out with them to eat dinner followed by to COURT to buy bed and frame for her mum.
shortly after i have to leave to went home .sch on tml ,no more pon.

I LOVE BABY>>>>
2 MORE DAYS TO 7TH MONTH

2009-07-25T04:37:00.000-07:00

hey guys,starting from next week sat at aug 1 i be working
at parkway too with my wife at giant.
:)
both of us be working during weekend.
i had signed contract working for 6month so there
i be working with wife for six month.!
feel free to visit

one more week to our seventh month
xoxo,my gal.

2009-07-22T18:51:00.001-07:00

my baby justina v cute.
dont know why .the more i look at her i more i think she is cute
madly in love.
i need potion.

2009-07-17T22:39:00.000-07:00

i had watched half blood prince !

baby surprise me by booking ticket online first so that i able

to watch it at the first moment.

haha,no wonder u keep denying me to wached it with my friend .

u plot eveything with them le.

evil you!

finished watching tir 11.05pm ,so late.

first time baby and me went out so late !

manage to get home before 12 am!

the movie graphic was nice .yeah but not much detail was shown
like how the ring was found and being destroyed .
read the book and you know the juicy part
baby also dont understand when she watched the movie
after explained to her,she know le.

14more day to our seventh months

cheers

2009-07-17T09:52:00.000-07:00

weeee.
baby came to my house on wed after i release from lesson
i hate wednesday !
bcos baby dont have class on that day.
when will it be my turn!?
baby wore skirt wor!!!
it been so long since she wore it.
i like her to wear skirt ,more femme.
had dinner with her :)

my hair messy ,never comb after bathing.
>me and baby>

baby new shoes.

baby look kawaiie !chio!

taken in the lift .so random.

i just asked her to pose .

i like to make her my model !lols

2009-07-16T05:28:00.000-07:00

1. What exactly is homosexuality?
Homosexuality is the tendency wherein the persons you find sexually attractive happen to be persons of the same sex as yourself.
Bear in mind however, that a homosexual person does not find all others of the same sex attractive. Only a few. After all, a heterosexual person does not find all opposite sex persons attractive either. But a homosexual person finds that all the people he is ever attracted to, happen to be of the same sex, just as a heterosexual person finds that all the people he is ever attracted to, happen to be of the opposite sex.
Sexual attraction goes hand in hand with a desire for a relationship and love. Homosexual persons yearn for love and a relationship with persons they are attracted to. Other than the fact that the persons they are attracted to happen to be of the same sex, the qualities in their relationships are no different than in heterosexual relationships, e.g. emotional commitment, mutual support and a desire for permanence. This can be seen from the strong desire in many countries to have laws changed to recognise same-sex marriages.
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2. Why do some people think they are homosexual?
This question is a misguided question. When we use the word “think”, we imply that it is not true, and that someone is misleading himself. Homosexual persons do not “think” they are homosexual. They know they are homosexual.
They know this because they can recognise their own feelings. They do not feel sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex. Every time they have a crush, it’s with a person of the same sex. They do not experience similar feelings for persons of the opposite sex.
Related to this question is another, “Why do some people choose to be homosexual?”
This question is even more misguided. No homosexual person ever chooses to be homosexual. He simply discovers from his own feelings that he is. He has never made that “choice” in life, and as we will discuss below, he cannot “unchoose” it.
It is now widely accepted by scientific, psychiatric and medical professionals that homosexual orientation is innate, and fundamental to a some persons’ nature. It is increasingly accepted that homosexual orientation is latent in the child, and possibly even in the foetus. It is not something that people change into during their teenage or adult years as a result of certain “bad influences”. Certainly it is never something that people deliberately or consciously choose to become.
It is also widely accepted by thinking people that homosexuality is normal variation among humans. Just as some people are by nature left-handed, others are musically talented or extrovert, so some people are homosexual.
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3. What causes a person to be homosexual?
The main answer right now is that we don’t know the precise reasons, though it is a field of study that is receiving more and more unbiased attention. Studies conducted so far point increasingly to a substantial biological basis for homosexuality, but environmental influences in early childhood may be a factor too (not the sole cause).
(a) Genetic causes?There is increasing evidence that it may be partly genetic. For example, it is found that when one son is gay, his brothers have a higher chance of being homosexual too. A homosexual identical twin (who shares the same genes with his twin) has the highest likelihood of having a homosexual brother.
Other articles in Yawning Bread provide more information on recent scientific discoveries. Use the search function to locate them.
(b) Other biological causes?
There is also increasing evidence of hormonal factors acting on the foetus. There is some tentative evidence that the brain structure in homosexual persons is different from heterosexual persons, and that this difference in brain structure arose from brain development in foetal life.
The most likely cause for differences in brain development is that of hormonal balance while in the womb. There is evidence that this hormonal balance of the foetus would have been affected by the hormonal balance of the pregnant mother.
Other articles in Yawning Bread provide more information on recent scientific discoveries. Use the search function to locate them.
(c) Upbringing?
On the other hand, evidence for upbringing as a factor is non-existent, despite a century of searching by people attached to this idea. The first problem is that “upbringing” is a very vague and general term. When I press my questioners to be more specific, they tend to bring up two old ideas which I will deal with below:
(d) Distant father, domineering mother?
This is an old idea that has no credible research supporting it. It is conjecture that comes from the idea that homosexual males are somehow feminised by an overdominant mother, while the father as the male role model is absent.
The problem with this conjecture is that it assumes that homosexual males are feminised. This is contradicted by the simple observation that the vast majority of homosexual males are as masculine as heterosexual males.
People who have made a serious study of homosexuality generally consider this notion to be without basis.
(e) Being molested when young?
This is another old idea without any credible data.
It comes from the mistaken assumption that people are innately heterosexual, but are “converted” to homosexuality through bad experiences, or through exposure to other homosexual persons during their formative years.
It is contradicted by the increasing evidence of a biological basis for homosexuality.
It is also contradicted by the fact that the vast majority of homosexual persons do not have any experiences of being molested, just like the vast majority of heterosexual persons.
Of the unfortunate few who have been molested by others of the same sex, some have turned out to be homosexual, while others have turned out to be heterosexual. Of those who have been molested by people of the opposite sex, some have turned out to be homosexual too, but others heterosexual. No observable pattern has ever been shown.
(f) Mixing around with other homosexual people?
A person does not become homosexual because he has homosexual friends. Likewise, a homosexual person will not turn heterosexual even when he mixes with heterosexual persons. Sexual orientation, either way, is pretty much fixed in any particular person.
Even children and teenagers do not turn homosexual just because they mix with homosexual adults. After all, the great majority of adults that children mix with are heterosexual. Is it logical that just because they get to know one, or even more than one, adult who is homosexual, it will forever change the child’s future sexuality?
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4. At what age do most homosexual persons become homosexual?
Again, a misguided question. No one “becomes” homosexual. Most homosexual persons report that they discover they are homosexual sometime during their teenage years. A smaller number report that they have known they were different from their peers since around 9 or 10, though at that age, they couldn’t fully comprehend or put a name to that difference.
On the other hand, there are homosexual persons who repress their homosexuality for years. Mostly it is due to social pressure to conform, and to the lack of information in the society in which they live. They may get married and have children. But then at some point in their lives, they realise that they have never really felt anything for the opposite sex, while their feelings for the same sex never goes away. At that point in their lives, they finally recognise their own homosexuality.
To outsiders it would look like he suddenly “turned” homosexual. In fact, he has always been homosexual, only that he has denied it all this while.
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5. How can a homosexual person change?
He can’t.
Many homosexuals, wanting to escape social pressure, have tried. There has been no properly documented case of anyone succeeding.
Yes, there are documented cases of people who have psyched themselves into denial (almost always, these examples have come from the fundamentalist Christian groups), but there is no documented case of a person changing his feelings of attraction. Mental health professionals today consider these attempts (often called ‘reparative therapy’) by cult-like groups to change orientation to be abuse and warn of damage to the mental health of participants.
Sexual orientation is too fundamental in our nature to be changed. You cannot change homosexuals into heterosexuals. Nor vice versa.
In Yawning Bread there are a number of articles about fundamentalist groups’ attempts at changing orientation. Use the search function to locate them.
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6. What can psychiatrists do?
They can’t change anyone’s sexual orientation.
But a few homosexual persons can benefit from counselling and professional help. These are the ones who, feeling the burden of societal pressure, get very depressed, and maybe even reach the point of suicide. Professionals can help them see their situation in a more positive light, and improve their self-esteem.
However, the vast majority of homosexual persons do not need professional help. They are well-adjusted, self-confident people. Psychologically, they cope quite well despite prejudice and discrimination from society.
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7. How do I persuade him to mix more with the opposite sex?
Why do you want to persuade him to mix more with the opposite sex? Are you hoping that he will turn heterosexual? As I said above, sexual orientation can’t be changed.
By trying to “persuade” homosexual persons to do this or do that, you are showing disrespect to a person’s right to choose his friends freely. How would you like to have others pressure you to do things that don’t interest you? You’d see that as an unwarranted imposition.
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8. Are all gay men effeminate and all lesbian women tomboyish?
No.
The reason society often has this stereotype is because most homosexual men and women are indistinguishable from heterosexual persons. Only the tiny minority who happen to be effeminate or tomboyish, are visible. So society has taken the visible tip of the iceberg and wrongly extended the stereotype to all.
By the way, some effeminate men are heterosexual. Some tomboyish women are heterosexual.
In any case, what is wrong with having feminine or masculine mannerisms? In themselves, there is nothing wrong, is there? What may be the problem is the disapproval of other (unenlightened) people around. But the problem should be fixed at source, which is to enlighten those people rather than infringe on the self-autonomy of gays and lesbians with feminine/masculine mannerisms and outlook.
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9. Do homosexual people wish to go for a sex change?
No.
People who wish to go for sex change are transsexuals, not homosexuals. Transsexuals identify with a gender that is opposite to their bodies. For example, someone could be anatomically male, but feel very much a woman inside. Quite often transsexuals prefer to cross-dress, in keeping with the image they have of themselves.
Homosexual males consider themselves male, the same way as heterosexual males. They do not feel female at all. Homosexual females (i.e. lesbians), likewise consider themselves female. There is no conflict between their anatomical self and their sense of gender.
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10. Why does my son, daughter, brother, sister or friend want to tell me that that he is homosexual? Why isn’t he ashamed of it?
Generally, homosexual persons wish to ensure that those who are important to them have a clear and truthful idea of who they are. It may take them a long time and a lot of worrying to reach this point. But ultimately, they find that their sense of self-respect is such that they do not wish to live a lie any further.
For a homosexual person to tell others about his sexual orientation is a huge risk. He risks rejection and emotional chaos. If he has chosen to tell you, it is a sign that you are important to him. It is a long-standing truism that we are honest with those we love. You should feel honoured by his choice and you should feel a sense of responsibility to stand by him.
The truth does not make him or her any less your son, daughter, brother, sister or friend. He is still the same person as before, except that now he has given you a special gift, the gift of privileged honesty.
When he has reached this point, far from feeling guilt or shame, which is what society tends to put into homosexual persons, he has overcome it, and restored his self-respect. He has seen his own value as a person; he no longer subjugates himself to the ignorance and prejudice around him. That act of telling you is an act of liberation.
There are a few first-hand coming-out stories in Yawning Bread. Use the search function to locate them.
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11. He/she is gay. What is the best thing I can do?
Make an effort to understand what it means to be homosexual. Do a bit of clear thinking and examine any pre-conceived notions you may have. Do not be judgmental. You yourself would not want others to be judgmental around you. Continue to see him as a person, a person you’ve long known.
Find some way to indicate that you are broadminded. Find some way to reassure him that the question of rejection does not arise. If it is true that it may take a while for you to get used to the idea, say so, be honest yourself. But if you believe that your love and capacity for friendship is deep enough to take the news in stride, then say that too, and work at it.
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12. He/she is gay. What is the worst thing I can do?
The worst thing you can do is to issue ultimatums. You should never demand that he change, or repent. You should never make your love and friendship conditional upon others living their lives in accordance with your demands.
To demand that he change is asking for the impossible. He can never comply. He will simply feel cut off from you. You risk driving him to despair and suicide.
The second worst thing you can do is to say “I cannot accept it”. This response is not constructive. It builds brick walls against understanding and communication. He is not asking you for permission or acceptance. He is telling you the truth about himself. Imagine that you’re a 43-year-old woman. When an occasion calls for it, you tell your friend, truthfully, “I am a 43-year-old woman.” But the response you get is “I cannot accept it. You must change!” Wouldn’t you consider that a moronic and unhelpful answer?
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13. What is meant by “homosexual lifestyle choice”?
Nothing. It is a meaningless term.
Firstly, there is no choice involved in being homosexual. Secondly, homosexual persons are as varied as heterosexual persons. There is no uniformity in the lives they lead. Some are career-driven and super-achievers; others know how to savour life. Some care for the environment; others are always buying the latest model of techno-wizardry and junking the old. Some are promiscuous; others are extremely faithful to their partners. Just like heterosexual persons.
This term, “homosexual lifestyle choice”, is an invention of people who are anti-gay. They use this term to paint a false picture of supposed hedonism, and then go blasting at it.
Do not use this term. It is derogatory. Actually, it is bad enough that it is meaningless.
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14. Is it true that homosexual men are obsessed with sex?
No more, no less, than heterosexual men.
Perhaps the media gives this impression. When heterosexual men are caught in compromising situations with the opposite sex, it is hardly newsworthy (unless the person is famous). But since homosexual exposés are considered more salacious and more newsworthy, based on the “moralism” of some societies, they tend to be highlighted. This bias in reporting may give the impression that homosexual men are more obsessed with sex, or that their behaviour is more shocking.
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15. What is the risk of him getting AIDS?
On an individual basis, no more, no less than heterosexual persons. AIDS is not a disease for homosexual persons. AIDS is a disease spread mainly through sex, any kind of sex that is unprotected. Another common route of transmission is through intravenous drug use, but this is not at all related to sex.
In Singapore, the majority of HIV infections occur via heterosexual sex. Lesbians are considered one of the groups with the lowest risk factors.
Every one, whatever his sexual orientation, male or female, should be aware of the risk, and the appropriate protective measures, like using a condom. Just because a person engages in homosexual relationships does not mean he is necessarily at greater risk.
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16. Is it a crime to be homosexual?
In Singapore, the homosexual act between males is a criminal offence. Even if it takes place between two consenting adults in the privacy of the home, the law considers it an offence. Government ministers however have said that the law will not be applied to consenting adults in private, and data from court cases indicate this policy is in effect.
The law probably does not apply to females, though as far as I know, no case has yet come up to test it. This means lesbian sex is most probably legal.
Most Asian countries do not have laws against homosexual sex. They only ones that do are ex-British colonies which inherited the laws from Victorian England.
What we have is a terribly stupid law. It is in breach of the UN Human Rights Committee’s ruling that discrimination on the ground of sexual orientation is a violation of human rights. Although the Singapore government no longer enforces the law actively, the continued existence of the law reinforces prejudice and discrimination in this country, causing emotional damage (and possibly suicide) to your friends and your loved ones.
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17. How do I tell whether a person is homosexual or not?
Most of the time, you can’t. Homosexual persons are normal persons. They look normal, they act quite indistinguishably from heterosexual persons. This is so for a simple reason: they are normal. Just as a left-handed person is, for all practical purposes, quite a normal person.
The question should be why do you want to be able to tell whether a person is homosexual or not? I hope it is not to poke your nose into others’ private affairs. I hope it is not to justify any discriminatory action (like sacking him from his job).
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18. How many homosexuals are there in a population?
There is no simple answer to this, but most researchers today are of the consensus, based primarily on surveys done in the West, that among adult males it is somewhere in the region of 6-7%. There is an additional 6% or so who are bisexual (i.e. people who are attracted sometimes to the same sex, sometimes to the opposite sex).
Among adult females, the percentages are lower. Somewhere in the region of 3-4% homosexual, and perhaps a similar number bisexual.
There is no indication so far that these percentages vary by much from one country to another.
The question of percentages is complicated because of the many ways one can use to define homosexuality and bisexuality. What if a person feels homosexual but doesn’t engage in homosexual acts? What if a person feels heterosexual, but engages in homosexual acts? What if a person is in a stable homosexual relationship, but occasionally has sex with the opposite sex?
Still, using the above percentages, as a rule of thumb then, it means that out of every fifteen male persons you know, about one would be homosexual and one bisexual. 15 is not a large set. How many male colleagues do you have in your office? In your class?
Chances are that you won’t be able to figure out which of them are homosexual or bisexual. This only goes to show how normal they are.
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19. How did homosexuality come into Asian societies?
Asian societies have always had homosexual persons in their midst. Historical records indicate so. For example, classical Chinese literature contain numerous references to same-sex love, expressed in non-derogatory terms. Chinese imperial records through the ages have witnessed emperors and high officials with homosexual love affairs, as have Moghul records from India.
There are some people who hold the mistaken idea that homosexuality was one of those “degenerate practices” imported from the West. They are wrong. It’s not degenerate, and it’s not Western.
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20. What is homophobia?
Homophobia is defined as a “fear of homosexuality or homosexual persons”. Quite often, though, it is used in the sense of “hatred of homosexuality or homosexual persons”.
Like other phobias, e.g. hydrophobia (fear of water) or agoraphobia (fear of venturing into public spaces), homophobia is essentially irrational. It is not founded on clear logic or reason.
Unfortunately, some people act out their homophobia, in the form of gay-bashing, in the form of emotional rejection and even violent treatment of family members who are homosexual. When in positions of authority, they enact laws or preach sermons that do injustice to millions of homosexual persons around the world.
text above solely from=> http://www.yawningbread.org/arch_1998/yax-117.htm

2009-07-11T07:58:00.000-07:00

my baby and me on sat at parkway together with her friend ,mal
we ate dinner at subway then waited for her to end wowrk then we
went home!

baby look pretty in this pic ;)

by complicated.

2009-07-04T10:02:00.000-07:00

our sixth month annvisary .

lazy to blog more detail how we celebrated but my wife did

blog at her own blogger.

so here is the link:http://change-anew.blogspot.com/

go check out the post ;)

and tag it possible .

2009-06-25T06:37:00.003-07:00

today no school for me as first years are to be quarantine at home because there are
confirm case of students getting h1n1 .
no school doesnt mean no lesson ,we have to stay home and do elearning .
poor dear still have lesson,cant goes school with her.
so after lesson today ,dear came to my house and pei me for dinner
with huiying 's sister to help her sign up card for her intership.

we have a long chit-chat with her during dinner.after that we went home
together and dear did her homework while i went to bath.
ive a loving time with her today.

xoxo ,my baby

2009-06-21T07:19:00.000-07:00

my dear played at the arcade .looked at how pro she is!!!

today went to parkway as usual to look for my dear.

i was thinking what to buy for my dad so dear suggested

a shirt will be good.

so off we went to isetan to select a shirt and finally i bought one

which hopefully he will likes becos he still haven open yet.

then i told dear that my dad like durian then dear bought

one packet of durian for my dad and she also bought one packet for her mum too.

father -in -law ma!haha

when my dad knew that it my dear who bought it ,he said that i should

invited her to our dinner on last friday.

anyway ,it a big step for my dad to know that my dear is a fillial child so that in

future she will accept her as my wife.

it a good start.

2009-06-20T08:33:00.000-07:00

Fashion photographer Connor Mead (Matthew McConaughey) is a typical ladies' man and playboy - the kind of jerk who breaks up with three women simultaneously via a computer conference call. And yet the girls love him, clamoring to be the next one-night-stand. He's invited by his brother Paul (Breckin Meyer) to Paul and Sandra's (Lacey Chabert) wedding, against the advice of Connor's childhood sweetheart Jenny Perotti (Jennifer Garner) and everyone familiar with his scandalous ways. She once had hopes for him, but Connor didn't want his meaningless but exciting short-lived sexual relationships to be hindered by feelings. He's like the Tin Man - born without a heart.Mead owes his attitude primarily to his mentor Uncle Wayne (Michael Douglas), a now deceased lady-killer legend who notoriously hosted mind-numbing, clothing optional, week-long orgies in his house - he also invented the word "MILF." Through the careful tutoring of Wayne, Connor has grown up to believe love is a magical comfort food for the weak and uneducated - forever condemning a fruitful relationship with Jenny. But his theories on love are destined to change when the ghost of Uncle Wayne returns to warn him of his wicked ways, along with visits by the Ghosts of Girlfriends Past, Present and Future

she is my wife...jus-tea

hiding ur smile but still i cApture it

xiao mei mei;P

today went to watch movie with my dear.

she worked halfway to 6pm then we rushed off to tampine

to catch the movie.we bought food from burger king and suppose to eat

inside .however before we went in ,we were stopped by the usher then he

said he will kept the food with them till the movie ended.

so we went in empty stomach .

overall,the show was nice with added romantic plus humor .

i highly recommend to watch it!

11days more to 6th month annvi ;)

2009-06-16T06:53:00.000-07:00

after that dinner with her mum,luckily dear 's mum never talk about
this topic anymore or either nag my dear.
maybe her mum know that dear will not listen to her advice or simply
she has given up.
maybe when i broken up with dear then her mum might scolded her.
but her mum will never have this chance.
it impossible.
im goin to be with her forever.

15 days to our sixth month,chubby!

trueful

2009-06-14T08:08:00.000-07:00

whole day with my wife.
from early morning i went to her house till night.
we slept till 1 am then we went to have sushi for lunch bcos
wifey kept wanted to eat her favourite tuna sushi.
even her mum found her nagging!
lols.
btw i had lunch and dinner with her mum for last two days.
getting to know her mum well.
but for today dinner ,her mum asked me a question whether i am straight?
then wifey kept changing subject however her mum kept persistent to get her answer.
her next question was did ur parents know u are not straight?
i didnt know what to answer,my mind was blank.
without thinkng ,i just replied her back somtime some thing is better not to let parents know.
then she asked again did u discuss about the topic lesbian with ur parents?
i said our family never talked about this topic before.
then she said something about bible mention that relationship with same gender
is wrong.
i just simply said if you are born in a poor family there is nothing u can do except to accept ur fate and changing for a better lifestyle.then i refer us as in we are born that way there is nothing we can do except to accept who you are.
so guys did i said anything wrong?

for now im sure wifey's mum known we are together.
one thing im not sure is whether trueful really helped or make thing worst?
im being trueful because her mum simply known im with her ,there is no reason to lie.
i just had to admit it.
however one thing im sure was that im really happy with my wifey and what is more
important than happiness to be with someone you loved very much.

hillo

2009-06-13T07:45:00.000-07:00

I AM JUSTINA LIM

dont blane me for not blogging..

she got my photo i got her's TOOOO!!!

i collected the pictures since we started our r/s.

oh she is playing with her panties. ==
her bestie who stay over at her place.

very candit hor?

so CUTE.. woooo kawaiii

when she had short hair.

when she wan to smile at me at web cam.

when she is watching video..

when she smile to herself for no reason ==

when she looking at pretty girls ( not me)

when she stare and stare.

ok.. no comments.

when pat say excuseme!

when she smile lovely in the cam

when she say.. "I WANNA eat u up!"

hahah how are the photos?? comment. hehe

cute cute

2009-06-11T07:51:00.001-07:00

.she is my girlfriend-justina!
i never changed girlfriend uh.
she rebonded her hair on wednesday .
she looked young and cute in her new hairstyle which of
course also chubby alot
pinch pinch ^^

so cute and sweets! aww.xiao meimei.

look slim

last time when she rebonded her hair --young young time

we spent $8 on both soft toys at arcade.i like winne pooh!
dear especially played it for me.thanks ,chubby!

reserved seat for them.laughing my head off!!

chubby,thankyou for today!

i love my dinner finally can eat it.

yummy!

anyway ,no matter what hair style u got u always

look cute in my eyes.

**beauty is in the eyes of the beholder**

visit to toys shop

2009-06-09T06:56:00.001-07:00

today i went to museum of shanghai toys shop with my dear.
It is The first museum in the world to exhibit vintage oriental toys, MoST boasts an extensive collection of toys that originated from Shanghai, China, from the period of 1910s to 1970s.

me and dear !

be careful of the sword!!

u looked fierce!

the cap seem big for me

old old phone

dolls in ethnics costume

tin car

mickey mouse toy -1930s

toys plaNE---1930s

sand pail---1920s

chiang kai shek--1940s

tai jian.my wife said de

creepy ar..

family of toys

old bottle

these toys are kept in good condition althought they are

very old

tin old cars

ive a fun day today looking at the old toys.

thankyou dear for accompany me althought the weather for today

is very humid.

we will go for next trip again next holiday ba!!

2009-06-08T08:33:00.000-07:00

chip and dale!!
my dear 's favourite cartoon.
we spent $5 to play at the machine and finally we caught it!
first time dear and me caught it!!
our baby!!

my wifey eating sushi! it my first time eating

sushi with her.she has a crave for sushi

during our working days.

look slim!i took de!

aww...chubby!

bored.

2009-06-02T10:11:00.000-07:00

baby had went to sleep at 12plus.she is too tired taking care of her mum and me.
so hard on her.
like what baby said everything is just temporary ,soon everything will be back to normal
and we could spend more time with each other.
after blogging i will watch gossip girl,nothing much to do.

what is life?

wonderful day

2009-06-02T07:40:00.001-07:00

weeee.
went out with dear today .
actually we planned to go to toys museum today however
we changed our mind last minute so we went to watch movie instead.
we watched monster verus aliens movie.
at first i was very against it as i dont like cartoon show.
but dear want watched it so accompany her.
turn out it was a funny movie.

dear love bob alot.she kept saying he is cute

my favourite character.she is cool and pretty

my sweetheart !!

weee,so cute!!

i like ur chubby face

she bought me a flowers.thankyou!

pretty flowers combines with pretty gal!!

fossil fish which me and dear saw it at plaza singpure.there is a exhibition

there about fossil dinosaur and fishes

sandstorm from dont know how many centuries ago

dinosaur -plant eater

dodo bird.

meat eater.dear was freak out by the dinosaur .

she said if all those status were alive,she would grab me and run away,

LOL.isnt bcos you are younger than me that y u have good imagination?

cool.i love the big guy!

5TH MTHS

2009-05-31T08:52:00.000-07:00

HAPPY 5TH MONTH TO MY DEAREST~!

CHUBBY CHUBBY CUTE CUTE
HAHA~
ALWAYS MY CHUBBY IN MY HEART,NO ONE CAN REPLACE YOU .
ALTHOUGHT WE CANT CELEBRATE OUR 5TH MONTH TOGETHER HOWEVER WE CAN POSTPHONE IT ;)

SEVEN MORE MONTHS TO OUR FIRST YEAR ANNIVERSARY!

LOOK FORWARD TO THAT SPECIAL DAY!

12PM ON THE DOT OF OUR 5TH MONTH.
LOVE YOU ALWAYS!

BY:COMPLICATED

stayover

2009-05-24T19:07:00.000-07:00

sat!!!!!

weeeeeeeee!

i been looking forward to sat since wed.

haha,because i went to chubby'S house and stay over!!

yeAH!

due to chubby's mummy went oversea .

then i came up with a "plan" or "reason"to stay at her house.

WEEEEEEE!

meet up with chubby at tampine to watch movie!

it been a long long time since we last watched a movie together.

we watched night at museum 2!

at first ,it dull but at the last part it quite interesting.
i like lincole status!so cool!

reached chubby's house around 10.30pm
after a quick bath we went to bed early to sleep.
yeAH,I SLEPT WITH CHUBBY THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT.
she is so cute.
her mouth kept open when she slept next to me
awesome night ;)
when is the next sleep over?

chubbY:
thanks for the book -eclipse (third series of twlight)!!
i was shocked when u showed me!
i love it!
can read during the holiday.

sweet homes

2009-05-21T07:17:00.000-07:00

after lesson ended today,we went to the arcade to play games.
we played photo hunt!
the best we can play is round 18.lol.
then after that dear went to my house to spend time with me.
i called dad and asked him to buy dinner home for me as well as dear.
dad didnt know our r/s he thought we are very good friend.
luckily dear finished her rj if not it will be very late when she reached home and
unable to complete her rj on time then it will be my fault.

ps:dear,
option 1
option 2
option 3

option 4 :writing of blog.didnt think of that ya?

PINKDOT!

2009-05-20T08:10:00.000-07:00

HELLO!

So how many ppl went to pink dot? tag tag and tell me more about the event!Baby enjoy so much that day. we get to meet some of our friends during the event as well. Even though pinkdot makes me perspire alot but i am proud to be part of it:)

btw, hui fen very pretty hor? so slim muack!

u are my sweet litt girl. be with me forever:)

I love u so much. i really do.

2009-05-20T02:49:00.000-07:00

ended school at 4.45pm
right now ,waiting for baby to be back from her excursion .
waiting ~waiting.
worst thing is she cant bring her phone with her so ive no way of contacting her
to know where she is.

baby ,are you going to be back?
im waiting orh.

my litt girl.

2009-05-15T03:59:00.000-07:00

This is the first time i am blogging here in our sweet little blog. I am very happy that baby had made this wonderful gift as my 4th month anniversary present.

i know i wasnt a good girlfriend in the past and i know sometimes it causes u to be unhappy that u wasnt your first or i had girlfriends or boyfriends before you. i also know that i was not the very best girl u had meet becos i dont know how to hong a my girlfriend when she is down or when she needs me. i really wish to be with u whenever and wherever u are. whether is it in school, whether is it at home, whether is it i am out. i know u always miss me but u insisted not to say it out sometimes. your mouth are like a closed zip.
i always say i love u so much. u would be thinking that saying it for many times doesnt have its significant values anymore. whenever i say i love u... i really mean it and it comes from my heart. i am very glad u were there when i am down with my past relationship. it was you who had saved me and gave myself confident to darely fall in love deeply again. this includes many trust and repect from the both of us. i am very glad to have u and i really appreciate u for been so nice to me for this 5 months( including dating period). u are a girl that makes me fall for u deeply. i doesnt make empty promises like how i used to do. if i make u sad, i will try to figure out my mistake and wont make the mistake again. dear, do u know that i really tried to change for myself and for u. i know u have a high demand from me even though u dont say it out. i will keep up to ur expectation ok? i will protect u and i will make u feel secure been with me. i am sorry if i fail to do so sometimes. i must have my reason for making a decision that makes u feel angry.

i know u miss me deeply today . i am too.

i really love u alot alot. live with me for the rest of our life ok? i love u hui fen.
JUSTINA LIM [JL]

2009-05-03T03:33:00.001-07:00

i missed my wife now.
right now,this moment
i missed her smile,the way she laughed
i wished she can be here with me now.

bubbles bubbles

2009-04-18T09:16:00.000-07:00

6april 09
dear and me went to jurong to repair my
previous laptop.so far!from one end to the
other end.luckily dear accompany me if not
i will be damn bored.
i love u.

dear was tired on the way home but still she smile
for the sake of the photo

we went to arcade to play and exchange a bottle
of bubble .dear was testing out

blur blur look!hehe

blowing bubble

now it dear turn

wow big bubble!

a video of us playing bubble

on bus

2009-04-18T08:31:00.000-07:00

vv 31MARCH09 vv

me and dear on the way to bugis.the journey

need around 1 hr to reach so we just cam whore

to spend our time.btw,dear changed her spec,suit

her alot.i like this pic,we looked compatible.

swEEt.

im going to bite her.here come my sharp teeth!

sigh.i love her too much ,dont bear to bite her.

see,professional tongue roll...haha.mydear look cute!!

dear acting is great,thumb-up!

a video of us on the bus!!

xoxo,love forever xoxo

co

2009-04-18T00:46:00.000-07:00

at east point mall .someone put on make up!

inside victoria hall waiting performance to start

270309

went to victoria hall to watch chinese orchestra performed by students

from temask poly.my dear has free tickets so i just tag along .

i was waiting for her at east point mall before we went togther.

we had dinner with her frens.it was quite late when we finished our meal

so we had to rushed to the hall.

i dont know know anything about chinese orchestra so i just sat there quietly and

enjoyed the performance.the least i can do was to show some respect by being quiet.

however the gal who played double brass caught my eyes .maybe it was because my dear

-jus played double brass too so i was curious who was playing it.

the girl who played brass was pretty!chio bu!!

when the performance was played halfway ,i looked around me and realised

that most

of the audience were not paying attention.worst,some even doze off.

for me,i did stay awake till the performance end.

overall ,the performance was not bad.i did enjoyed it thought it maybe

dull.

btw,dear put on make -up on that day,i was 0-0!u looked stunning !

bishan

2009-04-17T10:25:00.000-07:00

24mar 09

taken at bishan j8 .

we were just finished our lunch.

the t-shirt i was wearing was from my dear -jus!

two month and 24 days!

still counting d ;)

2009-04-17T09:18:00.000-07:00

>

video of my dear playing badminton

<

19march 09

had a game of badminton with dear under my block.

dear did not play badminton often but after a while she got

the hang of it.we played a few round before someone joined us.

a maid and a child.the maid was quite good at it and dear had a

hard time playin with her.lol.we played for 2 hrs plus before

we went home and took a hot bath after that.dear had muscle

ache for 2 days .lol

exercise with ur love one was fun!

giant

2009-04-17T02:46:00.000-07:00

dear look cute in this photo!!chubby

16 march09

today went to parkway giant with dear because she was going

to resign her cashier job.she was tired as she did not get enough sleep.

so i accompany her there as she was scared of the supervisor and dont have

the courage to voice out that she wanted to quit.

so ta-ta tag along to support her.

lol,when she saw the supervisor coming toward her ,

my dear hid behind my back ...i was amused but still in the end dear told her that she want

to resign.when she was done,she heaved an immense sighed of relief!!LOL.

dear dear..u looked pretty on that day ;)

at my house

2009-04-16T15:47:00.000-07:00

9 march 09

haha,this picture was ugly.

at the way we dressed.it was taken at my house late in the afternoon.

dear promise me that she would come in the morning at around 10am.

so i waited and waited till 12plus she still wasnt here.

i was angry when i called her ,she explained that she slept late and cant wake

up on time.at one point of our conversation ,i was so angry that i just slammed

down the phone.i think she was shocked because she rushed down from her house

and took a cab to my house straightaway without changing her home clothes.

at first i didnt want to let her in but still i let her in .

no use staying outside my door.

once she was in,she trying to coax me again and again.

not that im ureasonable,i just want my dear to keep her promise.

after a while i forgave her as she rushed all the way down from her

home.

dear,remb hor must keep ur words!

second month annvi

2009-04-16T07:07:00.000-07:00

SECOND MONTH ANNVI!!

1 MARCH09

we went to tampine ikea for dinner.

while we were about to paid for our food,a lady in

front of us knock onto my dear.then the chicken wing

on the plate drop on to the floor.walao!!

then dear has no choice and had to went back and took a new

one again.

i dont like the spaghetti because it hard to bite. however the chicken wing were

yummy!!

after the meal we went to ikea to look around,planning what to buy and

decorate a house

if we could afford!

about 8pm dear sent me home because she was tired.

i was pissed off because it still too early.after she bought the bus ,i went to

7-eleven to buy myself a drink and sat for a while.dear knew that im angry so

she kept sms me trying to coax me.

still,it was okay in the end. ;)

compass

2009-04-16T07:01:00.000-07:00

25feb09

we went to compass later at night.

notice that my face looked swollen?

that because i just removed my wisdom tooth .

argh,no more wisdom.im stupid!!ha.

it my first time smiling with my mouth opened and showing

my teeth and the ugly braces.ARGHX

until till i removed my braces then my teeth will be perfect!!

ah,my dear has a nice set of beautiful teeth!!

muack!!

pasir ris

2009-04-16T06:59:00.000-07:00

23 feb09

taken at pasir ris as we went out on that day.

1314,dear!!!

valentine day

2009-04-14T10:10:00.000-07:00

3,2 ,1

14feb09---valentine day!

went to bugis with other 2 couples to eat streamboat.

yeah,all are les.hehe.

vonx and tammy >>one couple

huiying and mira>>>one couple

of cos me and dear!

i love prawn and i ate alot!!

dear and me love veggie the most !!

haha,veggie eater!!

dear give me a necklace and a bouquet of chocolate

instead of flowers together with card.

i gave dear a chip and dale sofe toy!

i wished that next year valentine day dear will still be with me!!

east coast

2009-04-14T09:35:00.000-07:00

edited our picture!!!

orginal pic

13feb09

haha.

dear wore the giant shirt as she had been working as cashier

during weekday.so tough on her.

so on the third day of her work ,i went to look for her without her

knowing.i stood at a corner and watched her for a while ,she was agile

scanning all the stuff.after that waited for her to end her work then

we headed to east coast again !!

this time round we didnt ride a bike instead we sat there talking and taking photos.

totally enjoying ouself like there are only the two of us there.

i love the windy weather as it was near the time for the sun to set.

after a while,vonx called dear and wanted to meet .

so it my first time knowin vonx.

she study psychology .

we sat at the mac and started talking about how long a r/s can last.

she said the 3years is the longer,if u can last after 3years that means ur r/s is most

likely to last even longer.

whoa,learned something useful.

1 more day to valentine day!

hougang mall

2009-04-13T20:25:00.000-07:00

9 feb09 -at hougang mall

few more days to 14feb valentine day.

we were at hougang mall for a dinner .

ya,i looked sleepy after a meal .

yawn!

pai lian

2009-04-13T19:54:00.000-07:00

8febo9--dear looked like a butch in this photo.so shuai.

on that day dear had a chinese orchestra performance at simei.

i was there to watch her perform her double brass.

the song they played were chinese new year song which

explain why she wore red clothes .ha.

DEAR ,I LIKE THE WAY U PLAYED WITH ALL UR ATTENTIOn & energy in it ,u LOOKED COOL!

after the performance we rushed to hougang to pai lian at

my fren house.when we reached there ,we were very late.

so paiseh!but the most paiseh thing was the both of us had only two oranges.

so dear took one orange in one hand while i took the other one and pai lian to my

fren's dad.

after a sumptuous meal ,we need to clean the table to lao yusheng.

my fren's mum commented that my dear is good housewife bcos she helped to

pack most of the stuff.whoa,im proud to heard that.grin**

after yusheng,we played 3rounds of poker before going home.

ps :dear

althought u ran faster than me on the day when we were on the way home

but i won u by tricking u to run first bcos im very full to the brim.

outrun me next time if u dare !!!!!!!

east coast

2009-04-13T10:15:00.000-07:00

5 feb09---at east coast.

<look at the above picture>

my dear sang at east coast with the bottle as a mike.ha.

at first she wanted to work but in the end for some reason

she dont feel like working.so instead she accompany me for whole day.

as we are already at marine parade so we decided to rent a bike to ride.

ive to admit that i dont know how to ride a bike.however i did learnt before but

still after one year of never touching the bike,my skill rust.Now i understood

what practice make prefect means.

so my dear rented a double bike .she is good rider,i feel safe with her.

i did enjoyed myself.however i doubt whether dear enjoyed herself

because she is the one who used so much strength to ride the bike.hehe.

xoxo,dear.

my lao po

2009-04-12T08:09:00.000-07:00

she is my LAO PO!

haha,she took it when she was at my house.

without me knowing it until an hours later.

she look so CHUBBY ,gentle and feminine.

i wan hug hug!!!!!

my sweetheart vv

kfc

2009-04-12T07:36:00.000-07:00

2feb09---kfc

taken it at compass point kfc!

it my first time having kfc with her as we seldom

ate at fastfood,normally we ate at the foodcourt .

i remembered we taken a long time to finish our meal as we

seat there chit-chatting.plus i was taking a long time to finish

my drink.

dear ,what really amaze me is that u ate ur food so fast like lightning.

cant believe it.haha.

dont beat me hor!it facts!!

chingay

2009-04-10T09:43:00.000-07:00

im eating choco while she wan to take photo.
really weird

the background look misty but i liked it

c'mon i wan cut off ur tongue.hee

me>mean look ,dear>>cute look

31 jan09

on that day dear and me togther with some of my frens

went to chingay opening.

one of my fren have free ticket so i invited dear along.

it never occur to my mind that dear like this kind of event.

i thought she might found it noisy and uninteresting.

to my surprise her reaction was so enthused.

my girl was kinda high on that night as she kept swaying her hips.

she really enjoyed the loud basting music

ha.

realised it on that day.

;P ;P

23jan09-impt person

2009-04-10T09:06:00.000-07:00

23 jan 09

i love this picture very much.

we looked compatible,it my own personal

point of view.plus it also took me a while to

edit that picture.

she is my most important person in my life.

she is my best fren as well as my girlfriend.

someone who always there when i need her

someone who can protect me and make me feel secure.

someone i can trust wholeheartedly

someone who im happy with no matter where we are

someone who i can share my burden with.

someone who means so much to me.

justina u're important to me.

i (l)(o)(v)(e) U

near new yr

2009-04-10T08:55:00.000-07:00

9 jan09

near chinese new year.
so dear and me went to chinatown to shop and look around
we walked to the busy street of chinatown and bought the food
there to eat.

after that we bought the sweet .yummy!(look at the photo,yummy hor)
then went to visit my frens working at this fashion.
chit-chat for a while before leaving
cam-whore with my dear before ending the day .

i love the t-shirt which dear wore on the day.
so cute with all those smiling face on it.
;)

officall date

2009-04-09T06:34:00.000-07:00

1 jan 09

that was the day me and dear were offically together.

our offical date.1 jan09.

after my work at this fashion,we went to countdown at

marina together with another couple-lalalogy and mira.

we waited for a long time before clock struck twelve.

it was a fresh new year for me as well as dear.

a new start for a new love.

next year this date we will be together again to witness this new year 2010

at that time it be our one year annvisary.

our promise-just a couple more month and u be mine rightfully.

xoxo

ard dec

2009-04-09T06:15:00.000-07:00

around dec.

that was first time i went to dear house.

she was helpingher mum to clean her house

as it was quite near chinese new year.

anyway i did not have any problem locating her

house.soon ,i was there.

it was my first time stepping into her room.

small and cosy.

i was sitten at her desk and wrote some message behind

the photo to give it to her as a present .

hehe.after a while she finished tidy her stuff and was back into her

room.she showed me postcard and photos.

it was also the first time we had close intimate with each other

after that we changed and went to my class bbq.

she was well -liked by my friends .

it was a fun day with her ,indeed.

24dec08

2009-04-08T00:20:00.000-07:00

24dec08

that day dear waited for me to end work.

she hide inside one of the dressing room and played

her psp.after a while she went out and bought something

back.i never asked her what it was.i thought maybe she

bought herself a drink.

after i had ended work ,she sent me home

that day was a raining day .at first we wanted to

finda seat to sat down but all the seat were wet so we move into

a enclosed space with shelter.

inside the plastic bag she bought was a box of candles .

she light the candles and we sat there talking .after a while we move in to sit

on a chair outside 7-11 store.

i remembered giving a kiss to her and hugged her before i went home.

;)love ya

22dec 08 the first pic

2009-04-07T23:54:00.000-07:00

to my dearest justina,

this is the surprise i been talking about .hopefully you will love it.

the reason why i created this blog was because i wanted to record

down every single moment i spent with you.AS long as we are together ,

this blog will stay with us forever.xoxo

22dec08

this is the first picture we took together.

at that time im still workin at this fashion and

u would sent me to work every morning.it

been hard on you to wake up early morning

but still u make it.althought i never told u

how much i appreciate it but inside my heart im

touched by what u did.

this photo was taken when u sent me to work at this fashion.

i remembered we took it on the second floor near the toilet .

lol.

u need to use the toilet so we went there but it was locked .

so ya we took the picture there.

the start of something beautiful..

;)